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Why I will NEVER do Airbnb AGAIN!

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I was an Airbnb host for about five months.  I had an extra room, in a nice condo and it certainly helped pay the rent.

My first guest was a young from girl Korea.  She booked for one night and stayed for all of an hour. I overheard her giggling on the phone and making plans to stay with her boyfriend for the night.  A minute later she came out with tears pouring down her face telling me her mom was in the hospital dying.  I told her she could have a tissue for her crocodile tears, but a refund out of the question!

The second guest I really liked. A super fun lady with whom I shared some fun conversations over a glass of wine.  Unfortunately, a hitch occurred when the water was turned off for one night due to plumbing problems downstairs.  I apologized and tried to make it up for it by buying her dinner. She was cool but slightly irked.  However, we continued to chat and laugh together.  She thanked me as she left and said she would definitely book with me again.  When it came to rating time, I gave her five stars and was horrified to discover that she had left one star for me.  I tried calling her frantically, to ask her to revise the feedback before that ridiculous 48-hour rule was up. She didn’t understand the time limit of the rating system and promised she would change it after work.  Too much time had elapsed by then but she mistakenly thought Airbnb would make an exception. Nope, if it is one minute past 48 hours, obviously she is lying for the host!

Numerous guests came and went.  Most no bother at all,  a few others a headache.  It was really a stressful way to make extra money.  And, then the guests from hell arrived…

My email to Airbnb about how their system fails to protect the hosts tells it all.

TO: Airbnb Customer Relations

I can’t find out how to contact you, but this message is about a guest named Thomas M****y.   I had no idea that two men, a dog, and a girlfriend were arriving at my home on a Friday night at 9pm.  The booking was made at about 7.30pm and your phone app failed to alert me. To have an unexpected group of  people arrive was extremely stressful and  I was not prepared

The father named Thomas M. was rude to the point of being abusive. I was very tired but scurried around like a rat trying to accommodate them.  He was screaming at me about how he should have gone to a Motel Six despite my explanation that I was not expecting guests.

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 THE SPITTING IMAGE OF THOMAS!

It started with his son having sex in the car with his girlfriend in front of all my neighbors! Thomas M went to bed after I finally got the room together.  The son mentioned he was also having problems trying to send a reservation through your app, so obviously, your glitch caused a lot of unnecessary chaos.  The son said that his dad was just always mean. At this point, after already being exhausted before they arrived, I wasn’t feeling well and went to sleep.

Both father and son got up before me and returned at some time during the day.  I had forgotten to leave out a key, I don’t function well rushed and pressured. The son had locked the front door when he left.  I never left the house and was sleeping heavily the whole time, as I was beginning the flu.   

Eventually, I woke up to a scene outside my front door.  I opened the door, the son and his girlfriend was there and stormed past me to the room and started packing up their stuff.  The son said his dad didn’t want to stay a second day and was demanding a full refund.  Then my phone rang and it was Thomas screaming all sorts of profanities, calling me a thief who had robbed them, a fraud and stating he had called the police on me. He said he had been pounding on my door for 48 minutes and that the police had been waiting outside. I  knew he was lying, the local sheriffs would waste their time on this.

I then had the pleasure of reading a barrage of threatening texts from Thomas.  I had apologized for the key, as that was my responsibility.  I  would never have taken a booking, with a little over an hours notice!  I should have refused them, but how awkward and here come negative points against my Airbnb account! 

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Thomas was relentless in his pursuit to punish me for all of this.  He said I had better give him all his money back!  I told him I would refund for the second night, however the $15 cleaning fee was non refundable, he showered, slept in the bed with the dog, left all my blankets on the floor, a messy bathroom, beds made in the living room, wet towels in the hallway and calling the police over a door his son locked was more than I needed to deal with.  He chose to use my accommodations for the night, thus he has to pay for that night. 

He was acting psychotic and claimed further things that were neither consistent nor rational, even saying he never came in the house? This was also becoming a case of extortion.  I returned $55 – one night plus half the cleaning fee – anything to make him leave me alone.  However, he would not stop and yes I lost my temper too!  Here are some of the texts below:

May 07 9:41am

You will get three stars

May 07 9:41am

Trying to return your money through Airbnb website.  And really lying about the police?  

May 07 9:41am

I never set foot in your house too.  At $65 I will sue you in court for much more!

May 07 9:42am

LEAVE ME ALONE NOW!

May 07 9:42am

The money I will take you to court

May 07 9:42am

Last warning!

May 07 9:42am

It’s amazing you’re talking to me today when I was trying to get in your house yesterday text messaging you and calling you no response

May 07 9:42am

Ok.

May 07 9:43am

$65 hotels

May 07 9:43am

You left a mess. I have to clean and wash your crap. Plus you had a dog

May 07 9:44am

And I already posted on the Airbnb community who said I shouldn’t have let you in. Refunding your $49. Now leave me alone. Before I get a restraining order!

May 07 9:48am

$65 or I’ll sue you next week in small claims for the entire two days

May 07 10:19am

And restitution I will report you to your apartment complex and sue them too!

May 07 10:21am

You charge me $75 for 4 hrs

May 07 10:22am

And you went and got a beer

May 07 10:22am

I will see you in court I want it all back last chance

May 07 10:23am

If I don’t see my $$$$$$ of the $$$$ is not on my account in the morning, I’m going to your apartment complex and letting them know I’m filing a lawsuit against you and the facility.  I paid $140 to you!  I’m going to sue them $5000 for false advertising & fraud, they own the facility you used and I had no prior knowledge that you didn’t own the facility. You’recharging people to stay there so I will be suing you and your apartment complex which puts you in violation of the lease on your apartment, you could possibly be evicted immediately for violating your lease this choice is yours!!!

May 07 3:21pm

What you are doing is extortion and you need to stop. I refunded you for Saturday. And taking $6 off the cleaning fee. You spent and your son spent the night. I still have to clean after you. I’m not obligated to refund you at all but I did. Please stop any further harassment.

May 07 3:25pm

If you don’t give me my $65 I’m going to sue you-you don’t seem to understand this. You were supposed to provide a service and you didn’t!  I told you to keep the money the money for the first night, I slept in your bed on blankets remember that on blankets no sheets on the bed, do you remember that and waited for you to get the room ready, do you remember I wanted to leave then I was nice enough to stay, if you think you did me a favor by waiting in your home you were totally wrong and unprofessional ! I expect $65 back from you nothing less if I don’t get this I’m going to show you exactly what my legal rights are how the hell could it be extortion when I’m asking for my money back when you lock me out of your place, obviously totally out of it!   You know what I’m going by your complex tomorrow you won’t hear from me anymore I promise I will come knocking on your door but the manager of your complex I promise you…

May 07 3:37pm

Your son left at 10am. I charged you for only for one night and a partial cleaning fee. Again threatening somebody in order to obtain money is illegal. And again I’m politely asking you to stop and please stay away from my home

May 07 4:24pm  (Thomas tries calling on the phone!)

I don’t know if you listened to the sheriffs, but I want to be left alone. The amount I received for a night is $48 plus a one time $15 cleaning fee. The amount I had sent you was $55. The room would have been ready like it has been for other guests, however, I had no idea anybody was coming that night!  I received no alert and did my best to accommodate. I would have been fine had you gone to a Motel 6. So I will pay the $9 difference and waive the cleaning fee for your inconvenience over the key issue.  I do not like such unpleasantry and I called the sheriffs because people threatening to come to my house and hang around my complex doesn’t make me comfortable being a single female.  So for my own safety, I did so.

I will send you the difference. You are paid in full. But, if you continue to harass or try to cause me problems than I do have the right for a restraining order. So, let’s end this negative energy and be done. I will send you now. I don’t know how long it takes to show in your account. Have a good night!

4 hrs

You can give out all the excuses you want your services was piss poor at best. I asked you to give me back my $65 and you’re still trying to Jack me.  If you give me my $60 I have no issue with you

3 hrs

How am I trying to jack you, I am trying to pay you the money? I had an issue sending it online because it is telling me that that I cannot do so and I am on hold with Airbnb as we speak to ask them for assistance to do it. I had sent $55 earlier. I don’t see where it is recorded or shows and now it’s telling me that I can only send $63. So making sure that that money goes through and I send the correct difference.

3 hrs

I don’t think it shows instantly, I have never done it before, I cannot control their website but making every attempt to resolve this so I can move on with other things in my life here

3 hrs

I emailed Airbnb to check on the process. I believe it takes 48 hours, I don’t know, I am new to this website also. So nobody is jacking you. And I am pretty sure it has gone through, but I need a confirmation so I don’t double pay. Thanks.

3 hrs

Nothing yet

3 hrs

As I said it’s probably going to be a couple of days. I have called, no answer, emailed waiting for a reply. I sent $55 and as soon as I know that that went through correctly I will send the other $9. In the meantime, there is nothing else I can do!

I sent out the $55 to this man.  After his threats to come banging at my door and upset the community I live in, I called the OC sheriffs to ask them to please speak to him.  The sheriff attempted also, but he couldn’t get a word in through Thomas’s screaming.  The officer ended up telling me that if he came to my door, then I had a right to file a restraining order and that Airbnb is not safe!  I asked the sheriff to please tell him I would give him the remaining $9 if he would just stop harassing me.  Plus, I asked your website to put out some sort of warning for other hosts. This man, in fact, should not even be allowed to continue to book as he is clearly mentally ill and dangerous!

So, once this annoying psycho got ALL his money back, he still wouldn’t leave me alone! Two weeks later I got a text message at 2.30am from Thomas.

  “I’m coming over!”. 

Infuriated I immediately reported him to Airbnb again.  Their Trust & Safety division is a joke!  First, they told me not to leave any this man any negative feedback because that would just make him angrier and jeopardize my safety. However, he was allowed to leave me negative feedback which they REFUSED to remove!  They took no responsibility for their app malfunctioning.

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Later I had found one of my spoons bent backwards, burned with a sticky brown substance!  Nice, Heroin in my house!  Even after sending a photograph of this over to Airbnb, they protected Thomas and wouldn’t remove the feedback left for me.  I was so done with this website and told them to cancel my account immediately!  Clearly, no protection exists for the hosts as we are considered the “bad guys” just like sellers on eBay and Amazon. The customer is always right, even if he is a demented stalker!

I decided to do a little further research on Thomas.  I nearly threw up when I saw his facebook.  On his profile, he pretended to be a good kind Christian man, a respected member of a church.  All his posts were of the same topic – mutilated, burned and children with horrible injuries!  And under each photo, he would write “aw poor little girl” etc… What that was all about, I hate to think!  His fellow church members were replying with “you need serious help” type comments!

All I can say is: AVOID AIRBNB!

It seems like easy money, but it is one of the most stressful attempts to make money I have ever experienced.  And this was not the only unpleasant encounter.  However, it was certainly the most disturbing!

 

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Sociopaths and Rat Pellets!

Getting over the sociopath or narcissist in your life is hard enough.   Getting rid of them for absolute good can be a nightmare!  Yes, forgiveness is an essential part of healing to free us from the burdens of hate.   However, to “forgive”  simply means to let go of anger.  It does not mean to forget or ever think we have any obligation to ever put ourselves in the pathway of harm again.

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The majority of these monsters will try and turn back up in your life at some point. Miraculously they have of course reformed themselves. They have no!.  They are simply low on resources and looking for ways to refill their honey jar.  And you are just part of the inventory.

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They cannot humanize you any more than you should waste your time trying to humanize them.

Interacting with them again will go great for a VERY short period of time, However,  the moment they see that anything else that threatens the control they think they have regained over you, they will try to destroy it!  To see you happy and without the need of them will engulf them in an overwhelming rage which they will try to disguise for as long as possible under their new mask.

Run as fast as you can! This time the damage will escalate faster and more dangerously than before.  He is not nor ever will be your friend!

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Anytime you engage yourself with this monster again, that freedom you worked so hard for will all have been for nothing!  You are not truly free. 

Your self-esteem no longer rests upon on how they treat you.  Their pathetic attempts to hurt you with the same tired insults are now plain boring!  It’s like wearing a bullet-proof jacket when somebody is shooting a BB gun full of rat pellets at you.  Kind of disgusting, kind of annoying but completely harmless unless you remove that jacket.

Be around normal people again!  Free yourself forever from the invisible cage of crazymaking and gaslighting!   Only then will you start attracting those who are real and have your best interests at heart.  However, watch them flee for the hills if they discover you allow him back around.  Nobody wants to sit and watch a friend self-destruct!

Finally, be very careful when you start dating again!  If you attracted a sociopath or narcissist in the first place, chances are extremely high you will unwittingly attract another!   Take some time to rediscover yourself and regain your self-esteem.   Get therapy if needed, there is absolutely nothing shameful in receiving support.  Don’t dwell on him, but remember the red flags and always go with your gut instinct before giving your heart to somebody else.  Your gut instinct is always right!

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THEY ARE DANGEROUS, DANGEROUS MEN!