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Nightmare Men 101

  • The Sociopath

  • The Commitment Phobe

  • The Narcissist

 

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This is a basic course on how to recognize the men of our nightmares before they become our nightmares!  For now, I will leave out the date rapists, serial killers, and those who like to expose themselves in zoos or churches.   These are the more common breed of beasts you maybe be dating or even married to. They can very quickly demolish your life,  heart, and sense of self if you miss the signs.

When you recognize a Nightmare Man, never look back! Run screaming for the hills and don’t stop,  for any reason.  A Jimmy Choo heel caught in the bushes is no excuse! Sacrifice it, before you sacrifice your sanity.  Let’s brush up on this trio of terror!

  1. The Sociopath

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This lazy conniving vampire will target you for sure.

His Favorite Victim Formula

  • Vulnerability
  • Gullibility
  • Empathy
  • Financial Resources

He will dehumanize you and feed off you like a parasite. And don’t even fret about him leaving! He will try to manipulate you with the silent treatment, disappearing acts, crazy-making and gas lighting.  However, so long as you are providing, he is taking

His favorite benefits:

control, material goods, free accommodation, and satisfaction to his ego.  Plus one very essential component. You will need to provide a cover for him to pass off as a normal trustworthy human being.   He doesn’t want all the responsibilities that come along with that. How else will he indulge in his addictions, commonly drug abuse, gambling, stealing, sexual etc..,   His agenda is ultimately selfish and ruthless.  Trying to look for any real humanity in him is like trying to find a Gucci purse in Walmart!.  The good news is that he can only fake it with his current circle of people for so long.  Sociopaths very rarely have any control over their behavior.  They are impulsive, tending to blow their own game before anybody else can.  And whatever he says,  please do give into the old “You are the crazy one” line!  Just compare how many crimes have you committed and been put in jail for and how many he has.  Makes it pretty easy to determine who the real nut job is!

The sociopath will of course  “love bomb”  you in the beginning. like all nightmare men do.  That is what makes them so dangerous because they have gotten so good at their act, it’s easy to miss the signs.   If the attention and phone calls are a little over the top at the beginning, take that as a definite RED FLAG!   Do not get blinded by the flattery!  He will use methods to make you feel like you are more important to him than oxygen.  Do not let your guard down with men who do this until you truly know who you are dealing with.

Sociopaths will also mirror you (basically imitate you, if were adopted, then so was he), copy your body language etc…   Give you some sob story about his life and try to find out as many of your sensitive areas as he can pretend to be sympathetic to them and use them against you later.  I actually wonder if there is a handbook for sociopaths because they all use close to the same formula.  How do they know the same steps to follow?

Anyway, beware this individual has NO FEELINGS except possible self-pity for his own pain and emptiness.  However, never for yours!  Sociopaths are very jealous, they even envy the fact that we can feel and they cannot.   He will charm you, lie to you, cheat on you, steal from you and possibly worse.  There are many different types of sociopaths and different degrees of their evil.  Even the type categorized at the least harmful IS HARMFUL!

 REMEMBER you CAN’T CHANGE OR CURE THEM!  You are dealing with a DEMON who cannot feel any empathy and enjoys watching you suffer.   Most likely he has some sort of severe addiction – drugs, alcohol or gambling.  Do not feel sympathy, he will look at this as yet one more opportunity to screw you over!

Feeling sorry for a sociopath is like feeling sorry for Richard Ramirez (the Night Stalker) bumping his knee as he crawled through somebody’s window to murder them.

 

The Commitment Phobe

Yet again here comes the overwhelming romantic attention.  Yep, we all love it, but remember with this one the hunt is all on so make sure you give this one a good chase before he goes Houdini on you.  He will smother you with attention, act cute and vulnerable and you will be the center of his world.  That is until he has you!  GAME OVER!  Now he will freak out and no longer want you.

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Compare it to a cat chasing a mouse, finally gets his claws on the poor creature and then gets anxiety on what he is supposed to do with it.  The mouse will end up very upset, and then end up chasing the cat to try and question why her time and energy was wasted running in the first place.  The mouse is wasting her breath as she will never get a straight answer!

When the CP has had enough of toying with you, that charming considerate guy will abruptly disappear.  The best warning you can get when this is about to happen is that things will be going really well.  You feel closer than ever to him.  He will then start being very elusive, not returning your calls and doing things to upset you to make you break up with him.  He can’t even commit to that!  You are totally confused and text him more and end up feeling like a crazy pathetic stalker for communicating the same way you did with him before.

So do what he wants!  BREAK UP WITH HIM!  The harder you try to work things out with him, the faster he will run.  And you will be left feeling even worse.  It can be a very heartbreaking experience but there is one thing that at least can be saved and that is your dignity!  There is a reason why he left.

The cold hard truth is that he is BORED with you and things were becoming too relationship like.  He always feels that there is a “better” woman around the corner and with his freedom feeling challenged, that jeopardizes his chances of getting her.   He is already on a new hunt, and too wishy-washy to deal with cleaning up the mess of his previous conquest, which would be you.  He will without warning avoid you or start picking on your flaws and leave you shocked and with a broken heart.

Commitment Phobe = Coward + Selfish + A Little Lost Boy!

The commitment-phobe,  I believe is a form of a sociopath.  A sociopath is incurable in his disorder, a CP can get help, should he want it.  Very rarely he will.  He likes his life the way it is and he will do the same thing to this next girl he has left you for.  She still won’t be good enough, what if somebody better than her comes around!  He is somewhat evil in my opinion in the fact that he knows he is going to dump you from the beginning. Of course, he won’t tell you that because why would you want even want to go out with him!  I think that is particularly cruel and very premeditating.

Towards the end, his cowardly way of trying to get rid of you should make him seem a lot less attractive.  You look for some kind of compassion from him but all you will get is annoyance and avoidance.  A very selfish and using individual.  He has mommy issues or some woman hurt him so badly he can NEVER RECOVER!  Don’t feel sorry for this one either, he actually is able to feel, so in a way makes him even worse than the sociopath. Because he actually understands what pain feels like!

 

The Narcissist

It’s all about them!  The over-inflated egos, the strong sense of self-entitlement, and the overwhelming need for the admiration of others.  They are flaky, prone to throw temper tantrums, use and abuse people around them.  Plus, they  love to sit on their high horse and be very judgemental of others.

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Ironically,  their self-esteem is pretty much wrecked.  Thus, have to feed on the flattery of others to keep feeling good about themselves.  You want to keep this guy, you better stay aboard the Love Boat with the special guest star being just himself!  Because the moment you question his magnificence you are going to get the cold shoulder.  He will only ever want to talk about himself, and what concerns him.  You will be lucky to ever be heard.  You better do what he wants and follow along like his little puppet or you may be greeted with the silent treatment or some other rotten form of emotional or physical abuse. I personally enjoy a relationship that involves two people, some sort of mutual benefit.   Fortunately, I have yet to date a narcissist and if I accidentally did, it would grow old real fast.   Hello, it’s supposed to be all about me!  Where does he get the nerve thinking he can interrupt my glory, now!

All jokes aside, notice that all three of these men tend to overlap each other in certain ways.  They are always on the hunt for a victim and will seek you out if you are not emotionally and mentally armed.  Thankfully, all three are too lazy and cowardly to even bother trying if you are!

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Love is NO Hollywood Romance!

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Love, dating, and marriage.  Glamorized in the movies, but stressful, heartbreaking and often plain boring in real life!   So where do we find a happy balance between reality and fantasy?

Emotions can sometimes feel like a curse that causes us to doubt what is logical. We can deceive ourselves into seeing and believing what we want to see and believe.  After all, that is far more pleasant.  Have you ever been torn between two men?  The super hot “bad boy” who is without a doubt just plain bad for us and we know it.  Yet our heart will race when we get that text, it takes some real discipline to blow off that adrenaline rush.

Then there is the sweet guy who is always there for you.  But, he is so boring and there is no chemistry.   You dread the idea of being trapped with Mr Reliable while still lusting after somebody who you desperately wish would change.  And what if he does? Could you truly get over the turmoil of pain, confusion and loneliness he caused you?  Would you be able to cold-heartedly just dump somebody who has given you everything you wanted to be back in the arms of the man you truly crave?

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Okay, well if you think Mr Wrong will ever really change,  then you need to turn off the Katherine Heigl movies and wake up.  Recognize this basic plot!

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The hot guy will start off being nice, then some unknown event (usually another woman) causes him to transform into an ass.  During the last ten minutes of the movie he realizes he has found true love and chases a plane on the runway carrying our heroine (seems kind of dangerous!) who is sick and tired of his BS.  He is screaming like a maniac “I love you” while jumping up like and banging on the windows of the rapidly moving aircraft.

The pilot (ignoring the safety of 300 passengers) brings the flight to a screeching halt. Mr ‘Suddenly Realized He’s in Love’,  boards the plane and anxiously looks for our protagonist.  She, of course, is the only passenger who has not even noticed any of the commotions.  Here we see the typical forever bewildered Meg Ryan character sporting a pixie haircut and absorbed in a magazine.  Her face clearly showing the ever so cute perpetual state of confusion.  She bursts into tears of happiness and everyone on the plane breaks into applause.  They apparently know all the events that had previously transpired between the two lovers and are not the least bit irritated that their flight was interrupted.  Everyone lives happily ever after, so we are lead to believe.

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Now let’s look at the sequel that Hollywood won’t make,  Meg gets older, her cuteness fades and she desperately tries to hold on to it with the blotched plastic surgery job of our nightmares. Now the relationship mirrors that of Al and Peg Bundy.  She can’t even get her man to chase her down half a block towards the park when she catches him cheating this time.

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Remember once they get us, they have us!   The thrill of the chase is going to inevitably die.

Thus the heart-pounding romance novel with Fabio spreading his goods all over the cover has come to an end.  The epilogue is not pretty. Now he farts loudly after sex, bitches over a few dishes and throws his tangled jeans on the floor that accentuate his overlapping beer belly.

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His woman screams in disgust as her barefoot makes contact with the heavily skid-marked tidy whities that didn’t quite make the careless toss towards the washer.  She wonders whatever happened to those days he didn’t even own a pair of jeans!

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 Nothing kills a relationship if you don’t have a connection.  No connection = No Relationship!

So reality does bite. Men can be jerks, but the worthy ones will work hard to win you! We forget they have to put a lot more effort into getting us with expensive dinners, phone calls, figuring out how to please us and feigning an interest in what we like to connect with us etc…  And we can be guilty of prancing around like princesses at that point we have them under a spell. Eventually, if we don’t let our pride down, and stop so rigidly following “The Rules” we will end up sitting at home crying, texting and desperately wanting attention back.  Now I’m not saying at all, to be a doormat but however, there has to be a balance between give and take.

So how do we do that?  Start with showing him some appreciation for even the littlest thing he does, down to cleaning the bathtub without being asked.  And watch he will start doing it more and more for you!  He does actually want you happy!

Men really do love recognition for what they do for you. It is the key to making t to make them feel needed and loved.

We never seem to get this one!  If somebody is upset, doesn’t it make sense to talk about it and solve the issue?

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Work with them as far as communication.  Men NEED their time alone to think. They can’t always handle our overflow of emotions and it will make them angry!  They are truly frustrated that they have failed us somehow. So let them cool down or they will flee like the devil is after them.  Vent to a friend and STOP TEXTING HIM!  Which I see every woman do, including myself.  At this time, you probably don’t think that they are thinking about us, but they really are!

We want to talk about problems, men want to solve them!

When he is ready to talk, he will do so, but he needs to do so with positive feelings. Otherwise, he will shut down and wall up!

Men are brought uр tо keep thеіr еmоtіоnѕ within thеіr hеаrt.  This very simple, let him show you he loves you!  Stop obsessing over that one night last Wednesday when he inadvertently said something insensitive without thinking.  Let it go and accept that conflict is inevitable!

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We can find still find ways to avoid unnecessary fighting.  For example, inѕtеаd of nаggіng оvеr hоuѕеhоld issues, mаkе a tо dо lіѕt tо rеmіnd him of general tasks. He is not always being lazy, hіѕ mind is most likely preoccupied with something other than unloading the dishwasher.

And to play devil’s advocate on what I just said,  I do hate to say it but sometimes we do need a little drama/pressure to keep things interesting. Otherwise, how boring would it all be?  Let’s go back to the Sandra Bullock/Julia Roberts plots of the dreaded nineties.  Imagine a romance movie with no scenes to piss you off and make you feel relieved that at least your guy didn’t do that.  Nobody wants to spend 90 minutes watching a couple dancing through daisy fields, having picnics and with no sexy temptress to test the man’s love and devotion.  That would soon put us all in a coma, it is the journey of learning to stay in love despite obstacles and distractions that really makes the love feel worthwhile.

But nevertheless, we never have to worry about that as relationships aren’t always going to be pretty. We all have those awesome “romantic nights” that wake us up with that smile on our face.  Our hair and makeup were perfect.  He actually noticed and he woke up happy that you….  need I say more!  But there are going to be those “hot sweaty, are you seriously dripping on my hair, hurry up and finish and which one of us made that weird noise during… type nights”  Always, awkward, but usually quickly forgotten.

“Nagging leads to conflict.  Conflict leads to Anger.  Anger leads to be being single with too many cats!”

So, in reality, we all really hate it when we catch him looking at other women!  How do we cope?

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JUST ACCEPT WHAT IS NEVER GOING TO CHANGE!  Remember he is with you and as hard as is it may be on your ego, you have to let it go unless it is blatantly obvious and rude.  Then feel free to scratch his eyes out!

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First of all talk to him about it and then try and this simple exercise to calm down your fury. Check out the elderly couples strolling around the park holding hands. Yоu’ll see that еvеn those men mаrrіеd for 60 уеаrѕ are still lооking. In fact, hе’ѕ probably lооkіng at уоu!   Creepy, let’s hope your man is also not looking at his 80-year-old wife!  Relationships are hard and don’t ever stay in one where you feel consistently miserable and demeaned.  However, if you are lucky enough to find a man that is good to you, and he may not be perfect – trust me it is worth the fight and the willingness to make some compromises to keep him.  A good man is few and far between these days!

Just Break Up and Want Him Back!

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Hollywood, you really need to stop with the “guy chases after the airplane” plot! You are causing us delusion and brain rot! I do like how the women are always strong enough to walk away, though.  If only real life were so easy!

 Ouch, ouch, ouch.  Your guy ditches you for the prom because he is embarrassed by what his friends think? What a conundrum!  Both Andrew McCarthy and James Spader are in love with you, but neither one of them want to be caught dead with you in your salvation army rejects! Can you imagine if she begged him like a dog to take her to the prom, I guarantee we would never get the benefit of our favorite final scene!

So what do we do when our heart is completely obliterated by some guy?  Can we internally shut him out and just move on to somebody new or do we wait around at home by the phone in tears hoping he will call!  Well, it’s up to you.  How much do you really want him back?  Do you think it’s your fault and or his and know he is a douche, but just don’t care.  All you want is the pain to subside and to get him back.  This time, things will be different…  Maybe they will and maybe they won’t.  Every break up is unique and nobody should judge anybody else because they want don’t want to give up.  If it means that much to you, and he wasn’t abusive then give it a shot.  Don’t listen to your friends. put down that phone and stop obsessively texting him and read the advice below.  It seriously works, I’ve tried it on two different guys.  Once, I got them back however, I wasn’t so sure that I really wanted them anymore.  However, it sure beat the pain of wanting them and not be able to have them.  I know, twisted logic….

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How to Mend a Broken Heart the Easy Way

By Jenna James

Upon first glance, mending your broken heart seems impossible. After all, you’re dealing with sadness, anger, and desperation that are changing how you live. Everything you’ve known and become accustomed to has turned on its head, AND the one person that you would normally turn to in a moment of crisis is the very person who is causing this pain. So how can you possibly mend your broken heart – yet alone in an easy way?

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You must abandon the mindset that triggers and perpetuate your painful emotions. Relinquish the “couple” mentality. By this, I mean you need to stop thinking as though you are part of a couple and instead see yourself as independent with your own life to worry about.

Think about it… here are some common thoughts that might trigger a familiar sinking feeling in the pit of your stomach:

  • Who will I spend my Friday night with?
  • I have to go alone to Thanksgiving dinner.
  • He/she was always the one I called right after I got out of work.
  • My bedside is empty.
  • Why should I cook dinner if I’m the only one eating it?

The above examples show your thinking in the relationship. Since you’re relationship has ended, having these thoughts remind you of what you don’t possess and rub salt into your broken heart.

In order to heal, you must start thinking like a single person. You’re not missing your “other half.” You’re completely on your own, and you’d like to date your ex again, but you’re not vulnerable because he or she no longer wants to be with you. If you can stop looking at yourself as part of a unit, you’ll put yourself in a position to nurse your broken heart back to health. Otherwise, you’re not allowing yourself to break the cycle in which every memory or routine stings an open wound.

This all sounds great theoretically, but how do you go about doing this? There are many secrets discussed in Bait Him Back, but I’ve included some quick examples below.

It’s vital you cease contact for a substantial amount of time. Nothing perpetuates that “couple’s mentality” more than seeing your ex immediately after your break up. Focus on yourself and your own interests, and that is nearly impossible if you’re hung up on what your ex is doing. Click Here!

For some people, you’ll be surprised at what casual dating can do. Distraction is key. If you sit around in your pajamas all day reminiscing about the good times, you’re impeding your growth. When you eventually make contact, you’ll have nothing to new or exciting to say about yourself.

If your ex asks what you’ve been up to, you can’t say, “I’ve just been missing you.” That’s a total turn off. It’s much more attractive for you to evolve in spite of this setback rather than becoming victim to it. Show him you that you have grown and something about you is different, intriguing. – and your ex will most likely regret their initial decision to break up with you. This is secret to having your ex want to be with you again.

Your heart can be mended and there are specific, easy, proven techniques to do just that. It’s when your mind gets in the way that your heart stays broken.

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Are You Making These Top 10 Break Up Mistakes?

By Jenna James

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The ten mistakes below are extremely common, and will almost completely kill your chances of getting your ex back. Undoubtedly you’ve either seen friends make these mistakes or maybe YOU made them in the past.Click Here!

If you manage to avoid the mistakes, you’re chances of mending your broken relationship are pretty damn good.

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1. Panic Contact – This is what happens when you let your distress and shock get the best of you. You don’t know what to do. All you want is to change things back to how they were, rewind time, and fix the problem immediately. So you do the only thing you can think of is try to contact your ex hoping you can reason him back into dating you. And the more you panic, the more you end up instigating damaging contact.

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2. Laying on the Guilt – When begging fails, your next tactic maybe to guilt your ex into staying with you – a bad idea.

Once you start saying things like, “If you really loved me, you wouldn’t do this,” “I’ve given you so much and this is how you repay me,” and “I knew this would happen, you never were good at relationships,” you’re sending yourself down a dangerous path. This a form of manipulation that will send your ex in the opposite direction you want them to go.

3. Settling for Friendship – You’re setting yourself up for disappointment. Your ex most likely loves you as a person, so when you agree to be “just friends,” it’s an excellent solution for him. He or she gets to keep you in his life without dating you. Unfortunately, by demoting yourself to the role of friend, most likely you will end up getting hurt. Instead, you need to set boundaries. Seek out the support of other friends.

Don’t trick yourself into believing that remaining friends is the only way you can keep your ex in your life. You have to let go completely, especially if you want the chance of getting back together in the future. Remember, if you stay friends, you’ll have to be a “good friend” and support your ex when he or she starts dating someone else. Sound painful?

4. Sleeping with Your Ex – So you shouldn’t revise your relationship to not include sex (being friends), but you also shouldn’t reduce your relationship to just sex. Sleeping with your ex is “fun” for you ex, and a big “I hope” for you. But that hope is unlikely to ever pan out.

5. Resorting to Drugs or Alcohol – It may seem like there is no other alternative, but drowning your sorrows in this manner makes you unappealing to your ex and dangerous to yourself. And when you finally come out of it, you’ll feel bad.

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6. Spiraling into Obsession – It’s understandable, you’re hurt. So giving voice to your woes and discussing your ex is okay… to a point. If you’re talking about your ex constantly to anyone who will listen, you’re apt to drive away friends and family members in addition to driving away your ex. It isn’t healthy to obsess. Give your mourning the time it deserves then think happier thoughts.

7. Harassing Your Ex’s Friends – You shouldn’t be in contact with your ex at all in the early stages of your break up. That INCLUDES being in contact with his friends. Sometimes this might suck, but for your sake, it’s the best thing to do.

8. Spying, Stalking, and Anything Creepy – Let the characters in movies do all the spying. You need to focus on yourself and not on what your ex is doing. There is nothing you can do about it. You’re only going to rile yourself up.

9. Gifting Your Ex – You can’t buy your ex back with cute, thoughtful, or expensive gifts. Even if you could, he or wouldn’t be interested in you… just in what you could give.

10. Badmouthing Your Ex – No matter how much you want to drag your ex’s name through the mud for hurting you, 99% of the time it will come back to haunt you. Be an adult about your break up, and save your angry comments for behind closed doors.

These are the things NOT to do. But then what are the things you should be doing?

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How Sally Got Her Ex Boyfriend Back!

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How Sally Got Her Ex Back – And How You Can Too!

By Jenna James

It seemed to just come out of nowhere. Jimmy dumped her. He started his sentence like she’d seen so many times in the movies. “Sally, we need to talk,” he said. It’s just not working out. I think we’d be better off as friends.”

Sally was mortified. She heard the slam of his car door, and his music blare on before he revved his engine and left. Her swallowed tears began to pour. She felt like her life was over.

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She wanted him back desperately. Ever since they began dating, she’d felt as if he was her soul mate, that they’d be together forever. Sure he had his flaws, and she had hers, but at the end of the day they always worked things out. What was she going to do now? Click Here!

She’d seen enough of her friends’ breakups to know that begging him to come back was not the answer. She may have lost Jimmy, but she wasn’t about to lose her pride. So she promised herself that she would not call, text, or email Jimmy – not just yet anyway.

The first thing she did was to call her friend Kate. Kate was always good in situations like this. Kate took her out, and they had a day of pampering. It helped Sally get her mind off of how bad she felt, and Kate pumped her full of much-needed self-confidence.

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Kate was a rational and objective person, and she challenged Sally to really look at the relationship she had with Jimmy. Upon doing so, Sally saw a lot of things that needed working on. She realized that whenever Jimmy did anything that upset her, she’d withhold sex or just give him the silent treatment. Though she was really upset at those times, she realized how unfair she had been. Jimmy had contributed to the falling apart of the relationship too, but she now understood how he might have come to feel the way he did.

Though these insights didn’t make up for her sadness, she now understood what went wrong and was in a position to work on herself in order to get her ex boyfriend back. By knowing where she could improve, she could identify clear steps as to what she should do next.

There was no time for moping around; she had to learn how to deal with her anger better, and she could practice her communication skills with her family and friends. She had to stay positive, and for the moment she had to make the most of being on her own. After all, Jimmy wasn’t moping.

In addition to practicing her communication skills, she also started taking yoga classes and went out with her friends on the weekends. She’d forgotten how much fun her friends could be. She listened to some of them go on about their tumultuous relationships and to others ranting about their latest dating debacles.

She also noticed all of the attention she was getting from other guys – guys that weren’t Jimmy, and it made her feel sexy and coveted. She still desperately wanted Jimmy back, but it was nice to know that other men found her attractive. There wasn’t something wrong with her because she’d been dumped.

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One night she was out with a couple of friends, and Jimmy came walking into the restaurant with another girl. At first, she was heated. “How could he?” But once she calmed down, she realized it was okay. She felt good enough in her own skin that she didn’t care how he reacted to her.

It turned out, however, that seeing her out had inspired Jimmy to call her. “Wow, you look really good,” he said. When she asked him who he was out with the night before, he answered, “Oh, just some girl.” She could tell that he wasn’t serious about this woman like she initially expected when he walked into the restaurant.

She was surprised to learn from an article she had read, that guys don’t take dating as seriously as girls. For a guy, a date is a date… and nothing more. He’s not hoping for it to become a relationship, and he’s certainly not emotionally attached to the girl after one or two dates. She liked the analogy Kate gave her. Guys tend to test drive a lot of cars whereas girls drive one and get their hearts set on it without even seeing what else is out there. And that’s exactly what Jimmy was doing.

He ended up asking Sally if she wanted to go out somewhere the next weekend. She agreed. They went out to dinner and talked lightly about what had been going on. They joked around with each other, and the energy between them seemed relaxed and comfortable.

She didn’t mind that they hadn’t been together for those few months because she was able to do a lot of things that she wouldn’t have if she’d been dating Jimmy. He seemed impressed and interested when she shared her recent exploits with him.

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As the night came to a close, Jimmy asked her if she wanted to go upstairs to his apartment; but Sally, knowing better, declined. She said she had to get back home, but she’d like to do this again sometime. Jimmy seemed a little disappointed, but he smiled and agreed, and his gaze lingered on her as she turned to walk to her car.

Ultimately, Sally and Jimmy ended up getting back together. Sally felt good about the relationship because she had gotten it back on her terms. She didn’t feel insecure that Jimmy was going to leave her again. Instead, she felt grateful for the time she had on her own. She’d learned a lot about herself and what their relationship had been lacking.

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When they finally got back together, they worked on those weak points, and now their relationship was stronger than ever. If you were to ask her now if she regretted that painful time in her life, she’d answer no. She believes that without it, they would not have had the chance to work out the kinks that existed before. She’d tell you that because she remained strong and positive during their break up and didn’t succumb to desperate measures, she was now happy and secure… and Jimmy was pretty happy himself.

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