All posts by lucysrules

A humble girl from New Zealand who enjoys writing and voicing her mind about various topics.

Hottest Madonna Photos of the Mid-80’s!

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This is the time when Ms. Ciccone came to fame with her first two albums.  There was something about her look back then that none of the Madonna wannabees could even pay her justice by trying to imitate her.  Why?  Because they weren’t her and they just didn’t have that unique and amazing sense of style, confidence, and talent.

 

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Madonna had a different kind of beauty that might not have landed her on the cover of Vogue but was far more memorable and striking.  After all, who even remembers those models at that time!

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I was never a fan of the fake mole. She really didn’t need it.  But loving the dark lipstick and mesmerizing green eyes!

I love that young innocent cute look!

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Not everyone call pull off orange.  Madonna looked amazing in about any color of her choice!

Classy and Romantic!

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Cute and sexy without even having to bare her assets!

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Just plain sexy!

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Less makeup and accessories, but looking fresh-faced and pretty.  Not so sure about those baggy pants.  Oh well, it was the 80’s!

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Loving the Lime Green!

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One of my favorite styles.  The black tank, beads, crucifix and side ponytail she sported at the 1985 American Music Awards!

Gorgeous!  From Desperately Seeking Susan publicity posters.  It wasn’t the greatest movie and Rosanna Arquette paled in comparison to Madonna’s presence.  However, what made the movie was exactly what – her presence!

Yup I’ve often been to Denny’s in just a shirt and thigh highs.  Somehow I just wasn’t as relaxed as Madonna is!

Beach Beauty!  Madonna hated the photographer but ended up liking the results!

This punk style would still look awesome even in 2018!

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I love her hair!  I literally fried mine off trying to copy her!

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From one of her most absolutely beautiful photo sessions!

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Marilyn, this is the only woman who can give you a run for your money!

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Again loving the lime green and black lipstick!

How iconic is this look?  Her originality never fails to amaze me!

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The French Twist – again my hair would not co-operate in this style!

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Punk, Feminine, Girly, Perfection!

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Watch out boys, here she comes…

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The Cover BOYS of eBay!

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GQ is so yesterday when you can be a male eBay model!  His pose screams ” I just dare you to open a Return Request!”   Here they are:

The Coverboys of eBay!

Goth in a Tiny Tomato Jacket!

This I think might be two sizes too small???

  He ate only tomatoes, sacrificed the sun, and squeezed into a jacket two sizes too small to create one of eBay’s hottest photo shoots!  

The “Bitch This is my Hair, and I have the receipt to prove it” Diva

Rock that wig, girl???

 I dare you!  Talk to that hand and watch is slap you!

The Prep Boy in South Central

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Dr Dre met USC and get your ass beat!

The “I’m not really in the Army but just look like it” Guy!

WHERE DOES A GAY MAN OF COLOR SAFELY WEAR THIS TO ENJOY A NIGHT ON THE TOWN? Oh that's right on an eBay shoot.

What is more, fun, getting up at 4am to the tune of 500 push-ups or simply wearing the outfit that makes it look like you have!

The “Forever Dickies” Guy

THIS IS THE MAN I THINK OF WHEN I SEE THE BRAND NAME "DICKIES"!

Old Navy, just give it up!  Gap, we don’t even remember who you are? Your outfits make a man look like he is dressing for a ballet recital in Swan Lake!

Women want a Dickies man!  A man who will proudly strut around in 100% polyester khakis and take you out to Dennys for dinner!  He is super hot, blue collar, rugged with calloused hands and a freezer full of microwaved dinners!

 

“This T-Shirt Gets Me all the Bitches” Guy

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You too could be sporting three pet females on a leash if you invested $9.99 in this T-shirt! Also comes equipped with free muzzles for the occasional times when you want those bitches to keep their mouth closed!

The “My Pants with NEVER be Tight or Gold enough” Guy

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 To me, these just yell too baggy and gold tin foil for fabric!  Tighter and Golder, dude!

The “I just used the restroom, happened to look in the mirror and selfie time” Guy

 We have all been there.  Used the bathroom, looked in the mirror and had no idea how fine we really looked.  How much would the world suck without cell phones to catch us when we look super hot!  There may just be an eBay talent scout coming out of the stall right next to you.

The “Baby Powder Blue Diapered Sippy Cup” Guy

Your momma would tell you to cross your legs there you ugly beefcake! Nobody wants to watch you sport your powder baby blue speedos with NOTHING even to fill them with…  Do the world a favor and buy yourself a bra!  I blame Trump for this!

 

The “I can sell this lamp in the background for $99” Guy

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Only if the lamp comes WITHOUT him!

 

The “Pretty in Pink Moving Service” Guy

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Don’t discard her strength and agility when she and the girls drive up in their bright crimson pink moving truck!  They will never break one of your Waterford Crystals!  Plus, as they look with pure disdain at that comforter you got from Ross, you will end up donating half of your furniture anyway!

The “Check out my Designer Kitchen Appliances” Guy!

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Seriously, if I am going to buy a refrigerator I would like to see the whole product!

 

And for now, that’s all folks.  I have plenty more eBay cover boys waiting for their 15 minutes, so stay tuned!

The Cover GIRLS of eBay!

They missed the bus to their Victorias Secret interview and  Tyra fired them from Top Model for smoking crack in the bathroom.  They thought their dreams of becoming the next Adriana Lima were over!   However, fate held a job with far more prestige and glamour than any cover of Vogue!  These are The Cover Girls of eBay!

The Planet of the Apes Extra

IS SHE AUDITIONING FOR THE NEXT INSTALLMENT OF PLANET OF THE APES?

The most sort after extra for the Planet of the Apes series! She works for a paycheck of only two bananas and has a line of fans a mile long with special guest appearances at every POA convention.

The Giant Midget

OK ARE YOU A MIDGET OR A GIANT?

She can model for both petite sized clothing as well as the extra tall.  Now that’s versatility!

The “Guess” Again Girl

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 Neither Claudia Schiffer nor Anna Nicole Smith could make this outfit work. The wrinkled pants and harsh underwear lines are worn so effortlessly by this eBay Guess superstar!

The Potato Head Girl

Is the symmetry just off - or is that a tiny body supporting one GIANT head!

Remember Mr. Potato Head?  We just found his mail-order bride!

The Blonde Muscle Fountain

The barely hidden protruding penis adds a fresh look to this lovely lady.  We love the sheer fierce no-nonsense pose contrasting beautifully with the tranquil background.  There just Ain’t no fountain high enough ….

The Chipmunk Girl

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This girl has all the luck, a very nice figure and the ability to store enough nuts in those cheeks to feed every starving squirrel in Africa!

The Retired Coked Out Strippers

Girl’s just wanna have fun…  To be 60, look 70  and dress like your 20.  You’ve got the best of three decades!  Thank you for being too high to untie each other’s bathing suits!

The Young Boy posing as a Teenage Girl for Pedophiles and just got caught by their Mother 

I came home and caught my 12 year old son in a dress!

Oops, mom.  He bought it for me from eBay!

Shy Plain Jane with a Camel Toe

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Hollywood stars fork out big bucks for fake camel toes and this completely bored look this lucky lady has naturally been blessed with!

The Overweight Meth Smoking Unshowered Trailer Park Lady

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“Come in” she grunts to you in a hoarse croak.  The cigarette smoke burns your eyes but spares you temporarily for the eyesore that awaits you.   You are not sure if she is pulling out that bra or stuffing it back in.  You run screaming and crash straight into Leatherface in the motorhome next door.  He just looks at you with sympathy, puts down his chainsaw and drives you back into town.

The Androygenous Abercrombie & Fitch Model who played an Elf in Lord of the Rings

I'm sure he is a very nice guy

You remember his/her name right and the part where he/she is helping the elf king doing something important in order to fend off the dwarves and the trolls because one of the hobbits just lost the ring again and he/she appeared in a beautiful halo of light handing it to Golem…

The Bitchy Asian Alexis Colby

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For those of you who ever watched the 80’s nighttime soap Dynasty, you should be familiar with the reference.  Joan Collins eat your heart out and Krystle, there is a new bitch in town after your man!

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The Evil behind Ghosting and the Silent Treatment!

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Once it was called the Silent Treatment, now it is called Ghosting! 

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The definition: The practice of ending a personal relationship with someone by suddenly and without explanation withdrawing from all communication.

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EVIL may be a harsh word.  However, it is not harsh enough if you logically contemplate the true dynamics behind the narcissistic loser who does this to you.  Stop for a moment and contemplate the pain and humiliation they KNOW they are deliberately causing you.   Do not mistake any of this for any sort of caring about you!  Trust me, none of this is about trying to further a relationship with you or anything positive at all.

This Silent Treatment is done for a few reasons:  he has met somebody else and wants to keep you on the back burner, he is too much of a coward to break up with you or you have done something to bug him so he is punishing you with this diabolical game in order to put you back in your place and control you again with HIS rules.  Were you too needy with him, well you need to learn you are not that important to him!

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He stands you up for a date, you call repeatedly and he never answers the phone.  You text him “WTF?” and no reply.  After worriedly calling the hospital and jail, you are disappointed to find he is in neither!  You can’t ignore the gut feeling that you have been dumped!

In desperation, your mind races for another possibility.  He dropped his phone in the ocean again while surfing!  He has done that at least four times in the last two months!  Wait, Facebook Messenger, he’s never far from his laptop!  You log on to find that he was active just over an hour ago. He changed his profile photo and you are no longer in it!

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This is too painful to bear.  You have been seeing each other for months, everything was perfect.  You never had to text him first or make plans to hang out.  He couldn’t get enough of you and now he has vanished into thin air!

You feel like you have just been kicked in the stomach.   You cry and text continuously for a good four hours.  Eventually, you calm down and tell your cat:

” I’m seriously acting crazy and making assumptions. So what, one night I can’t get ahold of him and his facebook picture is different.  The world has not ended and of course, I will see him again!  He probably just had a bad day, and what did I do, bombard him with a bunch of needy texts that make me sound like a pathetic psycho! “

Your cat looks at you with a bored expression and also decides to give you the Silent Treatment.

Determined to fix this situation you then text:

“Hey, babe.  So sorry for all the texts.  I thought we had plans tonight and I was completely confused.  Were we supposed to have dinner tonight?  So sorry again for the freakout.  Please call me as soon as you get this message. I  love you and miss you!”

One more hour of silence passes.  Then the ever faithful desperation demon repossesses you once again.  This time bringing on feelings of complete rage and humiliation.   Round two of the texts begin. You hear that boxing bell ring, unfortunately, you are the only one fighting the match!

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“What kind of selfish uncaring cruel excuse for a human does something like this.  You’re are an asshole.  Fuck you and whatever bitch you are fucking right now!’

You really should probably put down that wine bottle at this point.  Your fingers are furiously typing pages and pages filled with anger, sadness, and a desperate plea for a response, any kind of acknowledgment that you have existed in his world.  Why have you been ostracized?

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You frantically promise you will do anything you can to make things right.   You go from complete panic to a brief moment of serenity, followed by some tears and loud wailing.  You accept you have far surpassed flying over the cuckoo’s nest.   You have stopped, landed on it and chased all the other birds out!   You know you have now destroyed any chance of getting him back.

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Still, you don’t stop.  What do you have to lose at this point You blow his phone up until it eventually turns off.  You leave long sobbing messages apologizing profusely on his voicemail (though you have no idea for what?).  You wait a good 20 minutes and then try the “funny memories of the good times” angle.  By the end of the night, you want to just die!  You are helpless, defeated, and heartbroken. Your world as you know it has completely come to an end, the fear of the unknown is overwhelming and frustrating.  Your soul is completely drained of all dignity and happiness,

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Eventually, you pass out, the alcohol didn’t exactly help the nuclear explosion of emotions but at least it put you to sleep.  You wake up with your head literally throbbing, and you lie there for a few minutes groggy and blank.  Then you remember last night. “Noooo…” you mumble.  “Please tell me this is nothing but a terrible dream”! You know it isn’t.

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The battery from your phone is dead, you scramble around for the charger praying he replied and maybe thought the whole thing was cute or funny.  No such luck.  You get to look at your incredibly embarrassing texts and burst into tears.  “What have I done?”.  You decide no more texting if he hears your voice sounding normal it might make him remember the normal you again.  You try to think of the perfect cute sentence to play off the downright creepiness you projected to him last night.

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“I’m so sorry babe.  I drank way too much wine last night and I know I made a complete ass of myself.  I’m so embarrassed, I swear my cat thinks I’m a nutcase,  (awkward laugh).  I was just really worried that something had happened to you and I was missing you so badly.  I love you so much, please call me and let me know that you are okay at least.  I really do love you, bye”.

You put down the phone and feel like a complete loser.  That was not cute or funny, sounded more like an addict begging for their last hit!

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Now you have lost your will to do anything.  You decide to call in sick to work, go back to bed and cry yourself back to sleep.  You don’t wake up until early evening.  Of course, you immediately go for your phone, your heart racing.  You just feel that he called.  But there is nothing no response from him at all.  For the next couple of weeks, you try to tone it down.  Leaving a message every other day, just casually saying  “Hey there, just wanted to say hi and see how your week was going?”.  Never a response.  

You can feel actual physical pain in your chest, you have no appetite, your concentration at work is non-existent and your anxiety just over the roof.  You can’t accept in your head that this is real and keep thinking what happened?  What did I do wrong?  I was one playing hard to get and making him work for me.  He said he loved me, I am such a loser here!

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This situation is extreme, however not uncommon.  When somebody we love ghosts us we are thrown into complete confusion and terrible pain.  We can’t understand why they did that to us and drive ourselves crazy wondering what we did wrong?  And yes, the girl, in this case, sounded like a stalking nut job.  However, one moment she was happily in love and feeling secure in what she thought was a great relationship and the next moment that was all snatched away from her without warning or explanation. As if she wasn’t even worth it and she started to blame herself for “overreacting to the cruel and cowardly behavior of somebody she had no reason to believe would ever do that to her!

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DON’T beat yourself up!  He made you crazy, he was rude and what he did to you was excruciatingly painful!  Clearly, he is one selfish, spineless cowardly excuse for a human.  For somebody to suddenly cut off all contact with another human being they claimed to love as if they were nothing but a Craiglist one night stand… And then guilt-free continue on with their merry life,  feeling triumphant that they had that much power over your emotions is not somebody worth losing any sleep over!

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It’s 2018, by now we are all pretty much chained to our cell phones.  Please do not give this loser the satisfaction of continuing to text him over and over again, trying in vain to get the answer you so desperately want to hear.  You won’t get it!   You don’t need his last thoughts of you to be of a whimpering pathetic desperate nutcase!  I always love it when men have the nerve to call us crazy after they have obviously lied or disappeared and then attempt to twist the truth and put the blame on us.  One big finger up to these jerks!   They need to be put in the straightjacket!

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HE DID IT TO YOU, HE WILL DO IT TO THE NEXT GIRL. PITY HER, BE RELIEVED YOU HAVE ESCAPED!

 

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Women who Change their Race.

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Yes, there are now women out there who are changing their race as casually as they change their purse!  These are not your usual common cases of some over tanning or wearing a blond weave.  These ladies (and sometimes men) are causing much controversy and uproar amongst both black and white people.  But, really are we still living in a world so rigid, that we even have to identify with a particular race?  Yes of course we are but who cares about ignorant people still trying to force that way of thinking.   Race is not always internal for everybody.  Some people just consider themselves to be plain old human beings!  Be gone those stupid boxes that make you check what race you are.  It should be one box only that says “HUMAN”!  Though, the self-proclaimed “Human Barbie” might struggle with that one.  For her, they need a box that says “Plastic” or “Other Species”!  She is not a very nice person, hence my negative comment.

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Anyway,  I say let them be who they want to be and look how they want to look!  They are not harming anybody else (I know many of you would argue against this) but they have the right to do to their own bodies as they wish and hang around with whomever they want.  We don’t exist in this world just to please other people.

FROM WHITE TO BLACK

Martina Adam aka Martina Big aka Malaikia Kubwa

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Martina Adam, I love this woman.  I really just can’t get enough of her.  She fascinates me, I just want to crawl inside her head and get lost in that empty space! Martina Adam, a flat-chested white skinned German woman had always wanted to look like Pamela Anderson as a teenager. She then underwent 25 breast implant surgeries to proudly obtain the title of having “the biggest breasts in Europe”!

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The former flight attendant, who changed her name to Martina Big,  proudly struts around with these gigantic basketballs on her chest.  That’s gotta take some serious balance. And still, plans to go bigger! She has accredited herself as a talented singer, model, and actress.  God bless her heart (hopefully the doctors can find it if ever necessary).  I like her video, I think it’s cute!

Martina soon becoming bored with the breast implants alone, decided she really needed to discover her true SOUL.  She went seeking on the horizon for a more exotic look.

Anybody know what is hanging off her bikini bottom?

Martina Big, aka Malaika Kubwa, soon found what she was missing.  Bye bye, Pamela Anderson look, that was so yesterday.  She decided to become a black woman.  Who knew you could even do that!  She had three melatonin injections in her stomach last year to make her skin black.  The injections apparently made her eyes turn a dark brown and her hair start growing out a “curly black” as she describes it.

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She got full on weave of African textured hair and plans to have surgery on her face to have her nose widened. In addition some butt implants, which I think is sensible as it might help her balance out her boobs.

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Malakia’s favorite slogans “Bigger is better” and “Black is Beautiful”, seem to work for her.  She finally managed to have the best of both in her “Big Big world”!  You can read more about Ms. Kubwa at www.martina-big.com.   Martina gets a lot of hatred directed towards her, but she does not let it bring her down one bit!  I say congratulations, Martina and keep on being you.  I think you are a full- on Black woman now and a very strong one at that.  You have to deal with resentment from both races and that can’t be an easy thing to do.  STAY BEAUTIFUL!

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FROM BLACK TO WHITE

Black women flock by the thousands towards that jar of skin bleach…

 

It is far easier to find extreme examples of black women whitening their skin than white women blackening theirs!  No, supermodel Alek Wek did not bleach her naturally very dark skin and I’m glad she didn’t.  I know I have raved on about Martina, but I admit I am a bit of a hypocrite when it comes to the other way around.  I am still 100% in the belief that people can alter their appearance anyway they want to and should not receive slack or judgment about it.

We change our hair color, our eye color all the time – at least I do. Science and technology now have allowed us to dramatically change our skin color, so what is the big deal?

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Now, I can play devil’s advocate when it comes to this controversy.  Skin bleaching in the US is almost like a major slap in the face towards everything that black people have suffered and fought for.  They literally shed blood to provide a more liberal pathway for future generations of color.  As a thank you, many of their predecessors are now trying to turn white which definitely does send out a strong message.  While we have role models like Alek Wek, Lupita Nyong’o, Nyakim Gatwech to name a few.  They proudly strut out there, with a self-confidence that cannot be bought in a bottle of bleach cream.  They are proud of their beautiful black skin in a world that still mostly rejects the very dark.  They don’t care that they strongly contrast with the majority of black female celebrities today who in an unspoken way, are promoting that black is not so beautiful.

I love this look – just gorgeous!

Skin lightening is very subjective to me.  Sometimes it turns out looking good, other times it turns out looking plain weird.  Ashy, not really white more of a translucent shade of gray!

 

These results are just hideous.  None of these women look like earthlings anymore.  It’s like the Black version of Invasion of the Body Snatchers,  where the aliens messed up and forgot to bring the melatonin with them!

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What shade is this?  I’m not sure white people are even that white unless they have become corpses!  Lil Kim, looked so cute in before picture before she went and turned herself into looking like a white tiger (minus the black stripes).

Okay – one last jab here.  Did anybody ever see The Omega Man with Charlton Heston!  A futuristic movie where he and Pam Grier are trying to escape a deadly plague.  This 1971 movie had to predict what was coming in the future.

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Before the Plague!

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After the plague! (Weird Coincidence?)

It is not to easy to accumulate many examples of skin bleaching turning out well.  It only seems to happen with wealthy celebrities who were already light skinned, and really didn’t need to go any lighter as they had beautiful golden toned skin already.  At least they knew when to stop!

 

Stacey Dash and Iman differ in this group as these two were fairly dark, but they’re lightened brightened skin seems to have made them both look younger than their years and works for them.  Tyra, Beyonce, and Rhianna, although still stunning, I really kind of miss their old look. They looked like faded versions of who they used to be.  They were good role models for young medium skinned girls to look up to.  Now there doesn’t seem to be any medium left in Hollywood.  It’s either super dark or super light!

Dangers to be aware of before you bleach your skin

  • Skin whiter than Nicole Kidman’s contrasting with African features. Looks weird.
  • Thinning of skin
  • Uneven Color Loss
  • Blotchy appearance, Redness, and Intense Irritation
  • Dark Grey Spots
  • Skin Cancer,
  • Acne,
  • Increased Appetite and Weight Gain,
  • Osteoporosis
  • Kidney Damage
  • There is a difference between Bleaching and Lightening Creams.  Both have dangers, however, the ones that say “lightening” are less severe.  Avoid any with the ingredients hydroquinone (now banned in Europe) and Mercury (banned in the USA).

Safer  Natural Methods

  • Lemon juice (use carefully)
  • Turmeric.
  • Raw potato
  • Aloe Vera
  • Coconut Water
  • Papaya
  • Microdermabrasion
  • Sunscreen
  • Healthy Skin Regimen

Most importantly, do your homework if this is a route you are determined to go.   Do not end up like this!

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Why I will NEVER do Airbnb AGAIN!

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I was an Airbnb host for about five months.  I had an extra room, in a nice condo and it certainly helped pay the rent.

My first guest was a young from girl Korea.  She booked for one night and stayed for all of an hour. I overheard her giggling on the phone and making plans to stay with her boyfriend for the night.  A minute later she came out with tears pouring down her face telling me her mom was in the hospital dying.  I told her she could have a tissue for her crocodile tears, but a refund out of the question!

The second guest I really liked. A super fun lady with whom I shared some fun conversations over a glass of wine.  Unfortunately, a hitch occurred when the water was turned off for one night due to plumbing problems downstairs.  I apologized and tried to make it up for it by buying her dinner. She was cool but slightly irked.  However, we continued to chat and laugh together.  She thanked me as she left and said she would definitely book with me again.  When it came to rating time, I gave her five stars and was horrified to discover that she had left one star for me.  I tried calling her frantically, to ask her to revise the feedback before that ridiculous 48-hour rule was up. She didn’t understand the time limit of the rating system and promised she would change it after work.  Too much time had elapsed by then but she mistakenly thought Airbnb would make an exception. Nope, if it is one minute past 48 hours, obviously she is lying for the host!

Numerous guests came and went.  Most no bother at all,  a few others a headache.  It was really a stressful way to make extra money.  And, then the guests from hell arrived…

My email to Airbnb about how their system fails to protect the hosts tells it all.

TO: Airbnb Customer Relations

I can’t find out how to contact you, but this message is about a guest named Thomas M****y.   I had no idea that two men, a dog, and a girlfriend were arriving at my home on a Friday night at 9pm.  The booking was made at about 7.30pm and your phone app failed to alert me. To have an unexpected group of  people arrive was extremely stressful and  I was not prepared

The father named Thomas M. was rude to the point of being abusive. I was very tired but scurried around like a rat trying to accommodate them.  He was screaming at me about how he should have gone to a Motel Six despite my explanation that I was not expecting guests.

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 THE SPITTING IMAGE OF THOMAS!

It started with his son having sex in the car with his girlfriend in front of all my neighbors! Thomas M went to bed after I finally got the room together.  The son mentioned he was also having problems trying to send a reservation through your app, so obviously, your glitch caused a lot of unnecessary chaos.  The son said that his dad was just always mean. At this point, after already being exhausted before they arrived, I wasn’t feeling well and went to sleep.

Both father and son got up before me and returned at some time during the day.  I had forgotten to leave out a key, I don’t function well rushed and pressured. The son had locked the front door when he left.  I never left the house and was sleeping heavily the whole time, as I was beginning the flu.   

Eventually, I woke up to a scene outside my front door.  I opened the door, the son and his girlfriend was there and stormed past me to the room and started packing up their stuff.  The son said his dad didn’t want to stay a second day and was demanding a full refund.  Then my phone rang and it was Thomas screaming all sorts of profanities, calling me a thief who had robbed them, a fraud and stating he had called the police on me. He said he had been pounding on my door for 48 minutes and that the police had been waiting outside. I  knew he was lying, the local sheriffs would waste their time on this.

I then had the pleasure of reading a barrage of threatening texts from Thomas.  I had apologized for the key, as that was my responsibility.  I  would never have taken a booking, with a little over an hours notice!  I should have refused them, but how awkward and here come negative points against my Airbnb account! 

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Thomas was relentless in his pursuit to punish me for all of this.  He said I had better give him all his money back!  I told him I would refund for the second night, however the $15 cleaning fee was non refundable, he showered, slept in the bed with the dog, left all my blankets on the floor, a messy bathroom, beds made in the living room, wet towels in the hallway and calling the police over a door his son locked was more than I needed to deal with.  He chose to use my accommodations for the night, thus he has to pay for that night. 

He was acting psychotic and claimed further things that were neither consistent nor rational, even saying he never came in the house? This was also becoming a case of extortion.  I returned $55 – one night plus half the cleaning fee – anything to make him leave me alone.  However, he would not stop and yes I lost my temper too!  Here are some of the texts below:

May 07 9:41am

You will get three stars

May 07 9:41am

Trying to return your money through Airbnb website.  And really lying about the police?  

May 07 9:41am

I never set foot in your house too.  At $65 I will sue you in court for much more!

May 07 9:42am

LEAVE ME ALONE NOW!

May 07 9:42am

The money I will take you to court

May 07 9:42am

Last warning!

May 07 9:42am

It’s amazing you’re talking to me today when I was trying to get in your house yesterday text messaging you and calling you no response

May 07 9:42am

Ok.

May 07 9:43am

$65 hotels

May 07 9:43am

You left a mess. I have to clean and wash your crap. Plus you had a dog

May 07 9:44am

And I already posted on the Airbnb community who said I shouldn’t have let you in. Refunding your $49. Now leave me alone. Before I get a restraining order!

May 07 9:48am

$65 or I’ll sue you next week in small claims for the entire two days

May 07 10:19am

And restitution I will report you to your apartment complex and sue them too!

May 07 10:21am

You charge me $75 for 4 hrs

May 07 10:22am

And you went and got a beer

May 07 10:22am

I will see you in court I want it all back last chance

May 07 10:23am

If I don’t see my $$$$$$ of the $$$$ is not on my account in the morning, I’m going to your apartment complex and letting them know I’m filing a lawsuit against you and the facility.  I paid $140 to you!  I’m going to sue them $5000 for false advertising & fraud, they own the facility you used and I had no prior knowledge that you didn’t own the facility. You’recharging people to stay there so I will be suing you and your apartment complex which puts you in violation of the lease on your apartment, you could possibly be evicted immediately for violating your lease this choice is yours!!!

May 07 3:21pm

What you are doing is extortion and you need to stop. I refunded you for Saturday. And taking $6 off the cleaning fee. You spent and your son spent the night. I still have to clean after you. I’m not obligated to refund you at all but I did. Please stop any further harassment.

May 07 3:25pm

If you don’t give me my $65 I’m going to sue you-you don’t seem to understand this. You were supposed to provide a service and you didn’t!  I told you to keep the money the money for the first night, I slept in your bed on blankets remember that on blankets no sheets on the bed, do you remember that and waited for you to get the room ready, do you remember I wanted to leave then I was nice enough to stay, if you think you did me a favor by waiting in your home you were totally wrong and unprofessional ! I expect $65 back from you nothing less if I don’t get this I’m going to show you exactly what my legal rights are how the hell could it be extortion when I’m asking for my money back when you lock me out of your place, obviously totally out of it!   You know what I’m going by your complex tomorrow you won’t hear from me anymore I promise I will come knocking on your door but the manager of your complex I promise you…

May 07 3:37pm

Your son left at 10am. I charged you for only for one night and a partial cleaning fee. Again threatening somebody in order to obtain money is illegal. And again I’m politely asking you to stop and please stay away from my home

May 07 4:24pm  (Thomas tries calling on the phone!)

I don’t know if you listened to the sheriffs, but I want to be left alone. The amount I received for a night is $48 plus a one time $15 cleaning fee. The amount I had sent you was $55. The room would have been ready like it has been for other guests, however, I had no idea anybody was coming that night!  I received no alert and did my best to accommodate. I would have been fine had you gone to a Motel 6. So I will pay the $9 difference and waive the cleaning fee for your inconvenience over the key issue.  I do not like such unpleasantry and I called the sheriffs because people threatening to come to my house and hang around my complex doesn’t make me comfortable being a single female.  So for my own safety, I did so.

I will send you the difference. You are paid in full. But, if you continue to harass or try to cause me problems than I do have the right for a restraining order. So, let’s end this negative energy and be done. I will send you now. I don’t know how long it takes to show in your account. Have a good night!

4 hrs

You can give out all the excuses you want your services was piss poor at best. I asked you to give me back my $65 and you’re still trying to Jack me.  If you give me my $60 I have no issue with you

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How am I trying to jack you, I am trying to pay you the money? I had an issue sending it online because it is telling me that that I cannot do so and I am on hold with Airbnb as we speak to ask them for assistance to do it. I had sent $55 earlier. I don’t see where it is recorded or shows and now it’s telling me that I can only send $63. So making sure that that money goes through and I send the correct difference.

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I don’t think it shows instantly, I have never done it before, I cannot control their website but making every attempt to resolve this so I can move on with other things in my life here

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I emailed Airbnb to check on the process. I believe it takes 48 hours, I don’t know, I am new to this website also. So nobody is jacking you. And I am pretty sure it has gone through, but I need a confirmation so I don’t double pay. Thanks.

3 hrs

Nothing yet

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As I said it’s probably going to be a couple of days. I have called, no answer, emailed waiting for a reply. I sent $55 and as soon as I know that that went through correctly I will send the other $9. In the meantime, there is nothing else I can do!

I sent out the $55 to this man.  After his threats to come banging at my door and upset the community I live in, I called the OC sheriffs to ask them to please speak to him.  The sheriff attempted also, but he couldn’t get a word in through Thomas’s screaming.  The officer ended up telling me that if he came to my door, then I had a right to file a restraining order and that Airbnb is not safe!  I asked the sheriff to please tell him I would give him the remaining $9 if he would just stop harassing me.  Plus, I asked your website to put out some sort of warning for other hosts. This man, in fact, should not even be allowed to continue to book as he is clearly mentally ill and dangerous!

So, once this annoying psycho got ALL his money back, he still wouldn’t leave me alone! Two weeks later I got a text message at 2.30am from Thomas.

  “I’m coming over!”. 

Infuriated I immediately reported him to Airbnb again.  Their Trust & Safety division is a joke!  First, they told me not to leave any this man any negative feedback because that would just make him angrier and jeopardize my safety. However, he was allowed to leave me negative feedback which they REFUSED to remove!  They took no responsibility for their app malfunctioning.

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Later I had found one of my spoons bent backwards, burned with a sticky brown substance!  Nice, Heroin in my house!  Even after sending a photograph of this over to Airbnb, they protected Thomas and wouldn’t remove the feedback left for me.  I was so done with this website and told them to cancel my account immediately!  Clearly, no protection exists for the hosts as we are considered the “bad guys” just like sellers on eBay and Amazon. The customer is always right, even if he is a demented stalker!

I decided to do a little further research on Thomas.  I nearly threw up when I saw his facebook.  On his profile, he pretended to be a good kind Christian man, a respected member of a church.  All his posts were of the same topic – mutilated, burned and children with horrible injuries!  And under each photo, he would write “aw poor little girl” etc… What that was all about, I hate to think!  His fellow church members were replying with “you need serious help” type comments!

All I can say is: AVOID AIRBNB!

It seems like easy money, but it is one of the most stressful attempts to make money I have ever experienced.  And this was not the only unpleasant encounter.  However, it was certainly the most disturbing!

 

Sociopaths and Rat Pellets!

Getting over the sociopath or narcissist in your life is hard enough.   Getting rid of them for absolute good can be a nightmare!  Yes, forgiveness is an essential part of healing to free us from the burdens of hate.   However, to “forgive”  simply means to let go of anger.  It does not mean to forget or ever think we have any obligation to ever put ourselves in the pathway of harm again.

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The majority of these monsters will try and turn back up in your life at some point. Miraculously they have of course reformed themselves. They have no!.  They are simply low on resources and looking for ways to refill their honey jar.  And you are just part of the inventory.

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They cannot humanize you any more than you should waste your time trying to humanize them.

Interacting with them again will go great for a VERY short period of time, However,  the moment they see that anything else that threatens the control they think they have regained over you, they will try to destroy it!  To see you happy and without the need of them will engulf them in an overwhelming rage which they will try to disguise for as long as possible under their new mask.

Run as fast as you can! This time the damage will escalate faster and more dangerously than before.  He is not nor ever will be your friend!

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Anytime you engage yourself with this monster again, that freedom you worked so hard for will all have been for nothing!  You are not truly free. 

Your self-esteem no longer rests upon on how they treat you.  Their pathetic attempts to hurt you with the same tired insults are now plain boring!  It’s like wearing a bullet-proof jacket when somebody is shooting a BB gun full of rat pellets at you.  Kind of disgusting, kind of annoying but completely harmless unless you remove that jacket.

Be around normal people again!  Free yourself forever from the invisible cage of crazymaking and gaslighting!   Only then will you start attracting those who are real and have your best interests at heart.  However, watch them flee for the hills if they discover you allow him back around.  Nobody wants to sit and watch a friend self-destruct!

Finally, be very careful when you start dating again!  If you attracted a sociopath or narcissist in the first place, chances are extremely high you will unwittingly attract another!   Take some time to rediscover yourself and regain your self-esteem.   Get therapy if needed, there is absolutely nothing shameful in receiving support.  Don’t dwell on him, but remember the red flags and always go with your gut instinct before giving your heart to somebody else.  Your gut instinct is always right!

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THEY ARE DANGEROUS, DANGEROUS MEN!

 

 

Nightmare Men 101

  • The Sociopath

  • The Commitment Phobe

  • The Narcissist

 

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This is a basic course on how to recognize the men of our nightmares before they become our nightmares!  For now, I will leave out the date rapists, serial killers, and those who like to expose themselves in zoos or churches.   These are the more common breed of beasts you maybe be dating or even married to. They can very quickly demolish your life,  heart, and sense of self if you miss the signs.

When you recognize a Nightmare Man, never look back! Run screaming for the hills and don’t stop,  for any reason.  A Jimmy Choo heel caught in the bushes is no excuse! Sacrifice it, before you sacrifice your sanity.  Let’s brush up on this trio of terror!

  1. The Sociopath

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This lazy conniving vampire will target you for sure.

His Favorite Victim Formula

  • Vulnerability
  • Gullibility
  • Empathy
  • Financial Resources

He will dehumanize you and feed off you like a parasite. And don’t even fret about him leaving! He will try to manipulate you with the silent treatment, disappearing acts, crazy-making and gas lighting.  However, so long as you are providing, he is taking

His favorite benefits:

control, material goods, free accommodation, and satisfaction to his ego.  Plus one very essential component. You will need to provide a cover for him to pass off as a normal trustworthy human being.   He doesn’t want all the responsibilities that come along with that. How else will he indulge in his addictions, commonly drug abuse, gambling, stealing, sexual etc..,   His agenda is ultimately selfish and ruthless.  Trying to look for any real humanity in him is like trying to find a Gucci purse in Walmart!.  The good news is that he can only fake it with his current circle of people for so long.  Sociopaths very rarely have any control over their behavior.  They are impulsive, tending to blow their own game before anybody else can.  And whatever he says,  please do give into the old “You are the crazy one” line!  Just compare how many crimes have you committed and been put in jail for and how many he has.  Makes it pretty easy to determine who the real nut job is!

The sociopath will of course  “love bomb”  you in the beginning. like all nightmare men do.  That is what makes them so dangerous because they have gotten so good at their act, it’s easy to miss the signs.   If the attention and phone calls are a little over the top at the beginning, take that as a definite RED FLAG!   Do not get blinded by the flattery!  He will use methods to make you feel like you are more important to him than oxygen.  Do not let your guard down with men who do this until you truly know who you are dealing with.

Sociopaths will also mirror you (basically imitate you, if were adopted, then so was he), copy your body language etc…   Give you some sob story about his life and try to find out as many of your sensitive areas as he can pretend to be sympathetic to them and use them against you later.  I actually wonder if there is a handbook for sociopaths because they all use close to the same formula.  How do they know the same steps to follow?

Anyway, beware this individual has NO FEELINGS except possible self-pity for his own pain and emptiness.  However, never for yours!  Sociopaths are very jealous, they even envy the fact that we can feel and they cannot.   He will charm you, lie to you, cheat on you, steal from you and possibly worse.  There are many different types of sociopaths and different degrees of their evil.  Even the type categorized at the least harmful IS HARMFUL!

 REMEMBER you CAN’T CHANGE OR CURE THEM!  You are dealing with a DEMON who cannot feel any empathy and enjoys watching you suffer.   Most likely he has some sort of severe addiction – drugs, alcohol or gambling.  Do not feel sympathy, he will look at this as yet one more opportunity to screw you over!

Feeling sorry for a sociopath is like feeling sorry for Richard Ramirez (the Night Stalker) bumping his knee as he crawled through somebody’s window to murder them.

 

The Commitment Phobe

Yet again here comes the overwhelming romantic attention.  Yep, we all love it, but remember with this one the hunt is all on so make sure you give this one a good chase before he goes Houdini on you.  He will smother you with attention, act cute and vulnerable and you will be the center of his world.  That is until he has you!  GAME OVER!  Now he will freak out and no longer want you.

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Compare it to a cat chasing a mouse, finally gets his claws on the poor creature and then gets anxiety on what he is supposed to do with it.  The mouse will end up very upset, and then end up chasing the cat to try and question why her time and energy was wasted running in the first place.  The mouse is wasting her breath as she will never get a straight answer!

When the CP has had enough of toying with you, that charming considerate guy will abruptly disappear.  The best warning you can get when this is about to happen is that things will be going really well.  You feel closer than ever to him.  He will then start being very elusive, not returning your calls and doing things to upset you to make you break up with him.  He can’t even commit to that!  You are totally confused and text him more and end up feeling like a crazy pathetic stalker for communicating the same way you did with him before.

So do what he wants!  BREAK UP WITH HIM!  The harder you try to work things out with him, the faster he will run.  And you will be left feeling even worse.  It can be a very heartbreaking experience but there is one thing that at least can be saved and that is your dignity!  There is a reason why he left.

The cold hard truth is that he is BORED with you and things were becoming too relationship like.  He always feels that there is a “better” woman around the corner and with his freedom feeling challenged, that jeopardizes his chances of getting her.   He is already on a new hunt, and too wishy-washy to deal with cleaning up the mess of his previous conquest, which would be you.  He will without warning avoid you or start picking on your flaws and leave you shocked and with a broken heart.

Commitment Phobe = Coward + Selfish + A Little Lost Boy!

The commitment-phobe,  I believe is a form of a sociopath.  A sociopath is incurable in his disorder, a CP can get help, should he want it.  Very rarely he will.  He likes his life the way it is and he will do the same thing to this next girl he has left you for.  She still won’t be good enough, what if somebody better than her comes around!  He is somewhat evil in my opinion in the fact that he knows he is going to dump you from the beginning. Of course, he won’t tell you that because why would you want even want to go out with him!  I think that is particularly cruel and very premeditating.

Towards the end, his cowardly way of trying to get rid of you should make him seem a lot less attractive.  You look for some kind of compassion from him but all you will get is annoyance and avoidance.  A very selfish and using individual.  He has mommy issues or some woman hurt him so badly he can NEVER RECOVER!  Don’t feel sorry for this one either, he actually is able to feel, so in a way makes him even worse than the sociopath. Because he actually understands what pain feels like!

 

The Narcissist

It’s all about them!  The over-inflated egos, the strong sense of self-entitlement, and the overwhelming need for the admiration of others.  They are flaky, prone to throw temper tantrums, use and abuse people around them.  Plus, they  love to sit on their high horse and be very judgemental of others.

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Ironically,  their self-esteem is pretty much wrecked.  Thus, have to feed on the flattery of others to keep feeling good about themselves.  You want to keep this guy, you better stay aboard the Love Boat with the special guest star being just himself!  Because the moment you question his magnificence you are going to get the cold shoulder.  He will only ever want to talk about himself, and what concerns him.  You will be lucky to ever be heard.  You better do what he wants and follow along like his little puppet or you may be greeted with the silent treatment or some other rotten form of emotional or physical abuse. I personally enjoy a relationship that involves two people, some sort of mutual benefit.   Fortunately, I have yet to date a narcissist and if I accidentally did, it would grow old real fast.   Hello, it’s supposed to be all about me!  Where does he get the nerve thinking he can interrupt my glory, now!

All jokes aside, notice that all three of these men tend to overlap each other in certain ways.  They are always on the hunt for a victim and will seek you out if you are not emotionally and mentally armed.  Thankfully, all three are too lazy and cowardly to even bother trying if you are!

Love is NO Hollywood Romance!

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Love, dating, and marriage.  Glamorized in the movies, but stressful, heartbreaking and often plain boring in real life!   So where do we find a happy balance between reality and fantasy?

Emotions can sometimes feel like a curse that causes us to doubt what is logical. We can deceive ourselves into seeing and believing what we want to see and believe.  After all, that is far more pleasant.  Have you ever been torn between two men?  The super hot “bad boy” who is without a doubt just plain bad for us and we know it.  Yet our heart will race when we get that text, it takes some real discipline to blow off that adrenaline rush.

Then there is the sweet guy who is always there for you.  But, he is so boring and there is no chemistry.   You dread the idea of being trapped with Mr Reliable while still lusting after somebody who you desperately wish would change.  And what if he does? Could you truly get over the turmoil of pain, confusion and loneliness he caused you?  Would you be able to cold-heartedly just dump somebody who has given you everything you wanted to be back in the arms of the man you truly crave?

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Okay, well if you think Mr Wrong will ever really change,  then you need to turn off the Katherine Heigl movies and wake up.  Recognize this basic plot!

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The hot guy will start off being nice, then some unknown event (usually another woman) causes him to transform into an ass.  During the last ten minutes of the movie he realizes he has found true love and chases a plane on the runway carrying our heroine (seems kind of dangerous!) who is sick and tired of his BS.  He is screaming like a maniac “I love you” while jumping up like and banging on the windows of the rapidly moving aircraft.

The pilot (ignoring the safety of 300 passengers) brings the flight to a screeching halt. Mr ‘Suddenly Realized He’s in Love’,  boards the plane and anxiously looks for our protagonist.  She, of course, is the only passenger who has not even noticed any of the commotions.  Here we see the typical forever bewildered Meg Ryan character sporting a pixie haircut and absorbed in a magazine.  Her face clearly showing the ever so cute perpetual state of confusion.  She bursts into tears of happiness and everyone on the plane breaks into applause.  They apparently know all the events that had previously transpired between the two lovers and are not the least bit irritated that their flight was interrupted.  Everyone lives happily ever after, so we are lead to believe.

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Now let’s look at the sequel that Hollywood won’t make,  Meg gets older, her cuteness fades and she desperately tries to hold on to it with the blotched plastic surgery job of our nightmares. Now the relationship mirrors that of Al and Peg Bundy.  She can’t even get her man to chase her down half a block towards the park when she catches him cheating this time.

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Remember once they get us, they have us!   The thrill of the chase is going to inevitably die.

Thus the heart-pounding romance novel with Fabio spreading his goods all over the cover has come to an end.  The epilogue is not pretty. Now he farts loudly after sex, bitches over a few dishes and throws his tangled jeans on the floor that accentuate his overlapping beer belly.

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His woman screams in disgust as her barefoot makes contact with the heavily skid-marked tidy whities that didn’t quite make the careless toss towards the washer.  She wonders whatever happened to those days he didn’t even own a pair of jeans!

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 Nothing kills a relationship if you don’t have a connection.  No connection = No Relationship!

So reality does bite. Men can be jerks, but the worthy ones will work hard to win you! We forget they have to put a lot more effort into getting us with expensive dinners, phone calls, figuring out how to please us and feigning an interest in what we like to connect with us etc…  And we can be guilty of prancing around like princesses at that point we have them under a spell. Eventually, if we don’t let our pride down, and stop so rigidly following “The Rules” we will end up sitting at home crying, texting and desperately wanting attention back.  Now I’m not saying at all, to be a doormat but however, there has to be a balance between give and take.

So how do we do that?  Start with showing him some appreciation for even the littlest thing he does, down to cleaning the bathtub without being asked.  And watch he will start doing it more and more for you!  He does actually want you happy!

Men really do love recognition for what they do for you. It is the key to making t to make them feel needed and loved.

We never seem to get this one!  If somebody is upset, doesn’t it make sense to talk about it and solve the issue?

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Work with them as far as communication.  Men NEED their time alone to think. They can’t always handle our overflow of emotions and it will make them angry!  They are truly frustrated that they have failed us somehow. So let them cool down or they will flee like the devil is after them.  Vent to a friend and STOP TEXTING HIM!  Which I see every woman do, including myself.  At this time, you probably don’t think that they are thinking about us, but they really are!

We want to talk about problems, men want to solve them!

When he is ready to talk, he will do so, but he needs to do so with positive feelings. Otherwise, he will shut down and wall up!

Men are brought uр tо keep thеіr еmоtіоnѕ within thеіr hеаrt.  This very simple, let him show you he loves you!  Stop obsessing over that one night last Wednesday when he inadvertently said something insensitive without thinking.  Let it go and accept that conflict is inevitable!

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We can find still find ways to avoid unnecessary fighting.  For example, inѕtеаd of nаggіng оvеr hоuѕеhоld issues, mаkе a tо dо lіѕt tо rеmіnd him of general tasks. He is not always being lazy, hіѕ mind is most likely preoccupied with something other than unloading the dishwasher.

And to play devil’s advocate on what I just said,  I do hate to say it but sometimes we do need a little drama/pressure to keep things interesting. Otherwise, how boring would it all be?  Let’s go back to the Sandra Bullock/Julia Roberts plots of the dreaded nineties.  Imagine a romance movie with no scenes to piss you off and make you feel relieved that at least your guy didn’t do that.  Nobody wants to spend 90 minutes watching a couple dancing through daisy fields, having picnics and with no sexy temptress to test the man’s love and devotion.  That would soon put us all in a coma, it is the journey of learning to stay in love despite obstacles and distractions that really makes the love feel worthwhile.

But nevertheless, we never have to worry about that as relationships aren’t always going to be pretty. We all have those awesome “romantic nights” that wake us up with that smile on our face.  Our hair and makeup were perfect.  He actually noticed and he woke up happy that you….  need I say more!  But there are going to be those “hot sweaty, are you seriously dripping on my hair, hurry up and finish and which one of us made that weird noise during… type nights”  Always, awkward, but usually quickly forgotten.

“Nagging leads to conflict.  Conflict leads to Anger.  Anger leads to be being single with too many cats!”

So, in reality, we all really hate it when we catch him looking at other women!  How do we cope?

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JUST ACCEPT WHAT IS NEVER GOING TO CHANGE!  Remember he is with you and as hard as is it may be on your ego, you have to let it go unless it is blatantly obvious and rude.  Then feel free to scratch his eyes out!

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First of all talk to him about it and then try and this simple exercise to calm down your fury. Check out the elderly couples strolling around the park holding hands. Yоu’ll see that еvеn those men mаrrіеd for 60 уеаrѕ are still lооking. In fact, hе’ѕ probably lооkіng at уоu!   Creepy, let’s hope your man is also not looking at his 80-year-old wife!  Relationships are hard and don’t ever stay in one where you feel consistently miserable and demeaned.  However, if you are lucky enough to find a man that is good to you, and he may not be perfect – trust me it is worth the fight and the willingness to make some compromises to keep him.  A good man is few and far between these days!

Revenge on the Sociopath is a waste of energy!

Dating a Sociopath

If Sociopath’s focused their energy into positive constructive pastimes they could be very successful. However, the majority of the time, due to poor impulse control, lack of long term planning and their desire to be in control and to win, things usually go awry within a short space of time.

One common feeling for victims of sociopaths, is a sense of betrayal and injustice. Inside there is a need to get ‘even’ or to seek revenge. The desire to make the sociopath ‘pay’ or understand how it ‘feels’.

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Usually this approach towards the Sociopath will backfire (although admittedly sometimes fate or karma can come into play, and you might be lucky enough to watch). The majority of the time, if you try to get revenge on the Sociopath it will backfire on you spectacularly.

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