Getting over the sociopath or narcissist in your life is hard enough. Getting rid of them for absolute good can be a nightmare! Yes, forgiveness is an essential part of healing to free us from the burdens of hate. However, to “forgive” simply means to let go of anger. It does not mean to forget or ever think we have any obligation to ever put ourselves in the pathway of harm again.
The majority of these monsters will try and turn back up in your life at some point. Miraculously they have of course reformed themselves. They have not!. They are simply low on resources and looking for ways to refill their honey jar. And you are just part of their inventory!
They cannot humanize you any more than you should waste your time trying to humanize them!
Interacting with them again will go great for a VERY short period of time, However, the moment they see that anything that threatens the control they believe to have regained over you, they will try to destroy it! To see you happy and without the need of them will engulf them in an overwhelming rage. They will desperately try to disguise this fury for as long as possible under their new mask.
Run as fast as you can! This time the damage will escalate faster and more dangerously than before. He is not nor ever will be your friend!
Anytime you engage yourself with this monster again, that freedom you worked so hard for will all have been for nothing! You are not truly free.
Your self-esteem no longer rests upon on how they treat you. Their pathetic attempts to hurt you with the same tired insults are now plain boring! It’s like wearing a bullet-proof jacket when somebody is shooting a BB gun full of rat pellets at you. Kind of disgusting, kind of annoying but completely harmless unless you remove that jacket!
Be around normal people again! Free yourself forever from the invisible cage of crazy making and gaslighting! Only then will you start attracting those who genuinely have your best interests at heart. Be aware that your new friends will flee for the hills if they discover that you allow him back around. Nobody wants to sit and watch a friend self-destruct!
Finally, be very careful when you start dating again! If you attracted a sociopath or narcissist in the first place, chances are extremely high you will unwittingly attract another! Take some time to rediscover yourself and regain your self-esteem. Get therapy if needed, there is absolutely nothing shameful in receiving support.
Don’t dwell on him, but remember the red flags and always go with your gut before giving your heart to somebody else. This instinct is your tool for protection, built in and designed to never fail you!