Getting OVER the sociopath or narcissist in your life is hard enough.
Getting RID of them can seem impossible!
It’s ironic. When you do want them they give you the silent treatment. When you don’t want them they are trying to hoover you to no end.
Typical behavior of a narc-opath. It would be too weird if they actually for once gave you anything you might actually want!
Forgiveness is an essential part of healing. It frees us from the burdens of hate and resentment left in the aftermath of a sociopath.
However, to FORGIVE simply means to let go of anger. It does not mean to FORGET or ever believe we have any obligation to put ourselves in the path of harm again.
When Socio-cissy reappears in your life don’t get the warm fuzzies by believing that out of everyone he has tortured you meant the most.
He is simply low on resources and looking for a ways to refill the honey jar. And for today you are the lucky one to be taken off the shelf!
The period of sweetness will be alarmingly short. Believe it or not you are much stronger now and he is desperately trying to disarm your power. It is an insult to all the precious time he invested making you feel like nothing!
The moment he sees anything that threatens his control he thinks he has over you, he will instantly try to destroy it. This will include new friends, activities , groups you enjoy and especially that self esteem you have regained.
The very idea of you happy without the need of him will engulf him in an overwhelming rage.
He will desperately try to disguise this fury for as long as possible under his new mask, but he won’t be able to stand it.
As he strikes at you with all his might you just look at him like he is crazy. His pathetic attempts to hurt you with the same tired insults don’t even faze you. You know that he is nothing but a sad little boy without any credibility.
You know the game of the sociopath but you still need to remain on guard because you never know how far they will go.
It’s like wearing a bullet-proof jacket when somebody is shooting a BB gun full of rat pellets at you. Kind of disgusting, kind of annoying but completely harmless unless you remove that jacket!